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mom complained about the food she makes is getting bad and nobody finish it before it has gone bad (its a potato soup). she said "i work hard to make those, i peel the potatoes, then i bla bla bla"
i feel bad, really really bad...
usually its me who ate all the food, i always finish the food until the plate is clean.
sometimes somebody got mad cause i ate it, but i just fear it will go bad before somebody finishes it. i dont want to make my mom sad.
sometimes i force myself to finish the food, i dont want to waste them, even the drinks.
sometimes they make fun of me (in like a light joking way, dont worry) for eating everything in sight. mom called me a rhino lol.
im just scared, like whos gonna eat them? what if the food is wasted?
i have gained a little bit of weight, and i have not feel that well (feet getting numb more often and sometimes heavy breathing and easily tired, but i think thats because i dont move much). i need to move a lot more. but i need motivation too to do that. and a lot of help. i want to change..
ugh.. sorry.. i just feel so bad rn
sorry for the bad englishJan 13, 2024
mom complained about the food she makes is getting bad and nobody finish it before it has gone bad (its a potato soup). she said "i work hard to make those, i peel the potatoes, then i bla bla bla"
i feel bad, really really bad...
usually its me who ate all the food, i always finish the food until the plate is clean.
sometimes somebody got mad cause i ate it, but i just fear it will go bad before somebody finishes it. i dont want to make my mom sad.
sometimes i force myself to finish the food, i dont want to waste them, even the drinks.
sometimes they make fun of me (in like a light joking way, dont worry) for eating everything in sight. mom called me a rhino lol.
im just scared, like whos gonna eat them? what if the food is wasted?
i have gained a little bit of weight, and i have not feel that well (feet getting numb more often and sometimes heavy breathing and easily tired, but i think thats because i dont move much). i need to move a lot more. but i need motivation too to do that. and a lot of help. i want to change..
ugh.. sorry.. i just feel so bad rn
sorry for the bad englishJan 13, 2024
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i will just like your comments because im just gonna say the exact same words, and that is Thank You for sharing, for giving me advice, etc. thank you so much! love you all (.°´ ^｀°.)
i will just like your comments because im just gonna say the exact same words, and that is Thank You for sharing, for giving me advice, etc. thank you so much! love you all (.°´ ^｀°.)•
Forcing yourself to eat something you don't actually like sounds like a punishment. My mom is an absolute angel and will deal with food if I go "im sorry I just don't want this thing I made" and use it for something else.
I would learn what spices you like, and make those leftovers amazing so maybe someone else would accept them too.
Waste is unacceptable, but so is downing food that you don't even like.
I would learn what spices you like, and make those leftovers amazing so maybe someone else would accept them too.
Waste is unacceptable, but so is downing food that you don't even like.
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My mom does something very similar 
I told her (as politely as I could because she’s the type to take things like this very personally) that i physically cannot finish everything she makes before it goes bad without making myself sick from eating too much (and I made sure to tell her that it’s not just me being picky)
She started making somewhat smaller portions and freezing more food which somewhat solved the issue
I also agree with the other comments
I told her (as politely as I could because she’s the type to take things like this very personally) that i physically cannot finish everything she makes before it goes bad without making myself sick from eating too much (and I made sure to tell her that it’s not just me being picky)
She started making somewhat smaller portions and freezing more food which somewhat solved the issue
I also agree with the other comments
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Just pointing out that attaching guilt, or fear of guilt, or any direct satisfaction from pleasing others - to food - or 'finishing your plate', is not a good idea in the long run in terms of having a healthy relationship to it, and those thought strings should be cut consistently and calmly like shwing by switching focus to some different track of thought.
Living with people, I've had to establish and re-establish that I'm not a bio trash can
️ for food. Just because there is food that doesn't mean I need to eat it. I plan my own meals.
Also, I'm not having sweet stuff and desserts whenever I feel like it AND also whenever the people in my life feel like I should have it.
So I can and will say no again and again.
But it's difficult to navigate when making food and offering food is not only a practical thing to discuss but also one form of showing love and there are people who read rejecting food like it's not appreciating the effort that was put into making it.
Weight is not the only reason why food is a personal decision. In the end, who gets to say what I put in my body? Me. There is no contest of powers attached to that. It is how it is.
Someone feels bad? I'm not eating to catharsis my emotions or anyone elses emotions.
Living with people, I've had to establish and re-establish that I'm not a bio trash can
️ for food. Just because there is food that doesn't mean I need to eat it. I plan my own meals.Also, I'm not having sweet stuff and desserts whenever I feel like it AND also whenever the people in my life feel like I should have it.
So I can and will say no again and again.
But it's difficult to navigate when making food and offering food is not only a practical thing to discuss but also one form of showing love and there are people who read rejecting food like it's not appreciating the effort that was put into making it.
Weight is not the only reason why food is a personal decision. In the end, who gets to say what I put in my body? Me. There is no contest of powers attached to that. It is how it is.
Someone feels bad? I'm not eating to catharsis my emotions or anyone elses emotions.
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I’m sorry friend, that sucks. You should really try to listen to your body more. If your full, don’t force yourself to eat more. That’s not good for your health. I know it sucks to have food go bad but it’s better to listen to your body and have to food go bad than to ignore your hunger cues. I know you don’t want to make your mom upset but you also have to be mindful of how you feel. Yes she worked hard on that soup and I’m sure you were very appreciative of it but if your not hungry, your not hungry. Maybe next time you could try freezing some of the soup so it doesn’t go bad but you don’t feel forced to eat it all. I also get the needing to work out thing, I really need to move and build some muscle but it’s hard with me being so burnt out from school.
Btw, your English is fine. I wouldn’t have even guessed it’s not your first language.
Btw, your English is fine. I wouldn’t have even guessed it’s not your first language.
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