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gonna tell you guys now this post is going to be sensitive topic (SA/4ss4ult and later on r4p3) but I need to talk about this and I really don't know what to do kind of vent
I'm not a big physical touch person, more specifically with family. I don't like even being around a lot of my family, let alone hugging them or anything. It takes me a very long time and a lot of trust to even be able to hug my friends. i trust a few people enough for that, and none of them are family. I'm not comfortable hugging my family or being around them for a while, but I can usually put up with it.
however recently my aunt's dad (I don't know the word for how he's related to me. she is my aunt by marriage, not blood) has touched me in ways that make me far more uncomfortable than a hug would, and said comments that I really do not like
i am deeply uncomfortable around him. I don't think he probably means bad, but it really upsets me and it feels really creepy. I have had frequent nightmares of him r4ping and SAing me
the past 2 times I've seen him (once was today. That sparked this post. I've been upset all day) he has touched my neck and shoulders in what feels like a very s3xual way because the only kind of person I feel like I could expect that kind of touching from would be a romantic partner. i do not like that. I show visible discomfort and recoil and shudder when he does this and he still continues.
he did this today and I felt so horrible I had to leave the area and go to the bathroom to get away for a few minutes. I came back and he said "have you been spanked since the last time I saw you? I'm sure you've done something bad to deserve it"
I am in high school. I am almost 16 years old. you are like 4 times my age, and also NOT my fucking parents, who NEVER even physically discipline me, and rarely ever do so verbally either because I mind my own damn business and don't do anything wrong. I don't need a 60 something year old man who isn't even technically related to me to spank me. i don't agree with physical discipline and definitely not between a 60 year old man and a teenage girl (for the sake of this, I'm saying girl, I'm afab and that's all they'll ever see me as. I'm sure you get the point)
That was a deeply uncomfortable comment for me. I didn't even know what to do. I had moved away from him and he just got closer.
I try to tell my parents I'm uncomfortable with the things some of our relatives say and do, and my sister has tried to tell them too (about this same guy. my sister is in middle school and he just walks by and smacks her butt sometimes), and all that our parents ever tell us is "it's not weird, you're making it weird. That's just what family does. Get over it and deal with it." Or "he doesn't mean anything. He's not some weirdo. that's just what family is like"
even if he doesn't mean anything by it, me (and my sister) are deeply uncomfortable by this and I dread even seeing those members of my family because I don't feel safe and comfortable around him. I would just say I'm uncomfortable if it was that easy, but after so long of trying to say I'm uncomfortable and just hearing "that doesn't matter, he's family so it's okay if he does that" I don't even know what to do anymore. it doesn't feel like there's anything I can do but just put up with it and cry about it later. but I'm so tired of it. I feel disgusting. even if he doesn't mean anything bad, I show very clear signs that I do not like it, and he continues. I do not want him to keep doing this, but no matter what, all my family says when I'm uncomfortable with another family members' actions or comments is "they just do that because they're your family, stop being so sensitive and get over it"
And they wonder why I do not want to spend time with them and why I talk more to my friends than them and always stay in my roomJan 8, 2023
I'm not a big physical touch person, more specifically with family. I don't like even being around a lot of my family, let alone hugging them or anything. It takes me a very long time and a lot of trust to even be able to hug my friends. i trust a few people enough for that, and none of them are family. I'm not comfortable hugging my family or being around them for a while, but I can usually put up with it.
however recently my aunt's dad (I don't know the word for how he's related to me. she is my aunt by marriage, not blood) has touched me in ways that make me far more uncomfortable than a hug would, and said comments that I really do not like
i am deeply uncomfortable around him. I don't think he probably means bad, but it really upsets me and it feels really creepy. I have had frequent nightmares of him r4ping and SAing me
the past 2 times I've seen him (once was today. That sparked this post. I've been upset all day) he has touched my neck and shoulders in what feels like a very s3xual way because the only kind of person I feel like I could expect that kind of touching from would be a romantic partner. i do not like that. I show visible discomfort and recoil and shudder when he does this and he still continues.
he did this today and I felt so horrible I had to leave the area and go to the bathroom to get away for a few minutes. I came back and he said "have you been spanked since the last time I saw you? I'm sure you've done something bad to deserve it"
I am in high school. I am almost 16 years old. you are like 4 times my age, and also NOT my fucking parents, who NEVER even physically discipline me, and rarely ever do so verbally either because I mind my own damn business and don't do anything wrong. I don't need a 60 something year old man who isn't even technically related to me to spank me. i don't agree with physical discipline and definitely not between a 60 year old man and a teenage girl (for the sake of this, I'm saying girl, I'm afab and that's all they'll ever see me as. I'm sure you get the point)
That was a deeply uncomfortable comment for me. I didn't even know what to do. I had moved away from him and he just got closer.
I try to tell my parents I'm uncomfortable with the things some of our relatives say and do, and my sister has tried to tell them too (about this same guy. my sister is in middle school and he just walks by and smacks her butt sometimes), and all that our parents ever tell us is "it's not weird, you're making it weird. That's just what family does. Get over it and deal with it." Or "he doesn't mean anything. He's not some weirdo. that's just what family is like"
even if he doesn't mean anything by it, me (and my sister) are deeply uncomfortable by this and I dread even seeing those members of my family because I don't feel safe and comfortable around him. I would just say I'm uncomfortable if it was that easy, but after so long of trying to say I'm uncomfortable and just hearing "that doesn't matter, he's family so it's okay if he does that" I don't even know what to do anymore. it doesn't feel like there's anything I can do but just put up with it and cry about it later. but I'm so tired of it. I feel disgusting. even if he doesn't mean anything bad, I show very clear signs that I do not like it, and he continues. I do not want him to keep doing this, but no matter what, all my family says when I'm uncomfortable with another family members' actions or comments is "they just do that because they're your family, stop being so sensitive and get over it"
And they wonder why I do not want to spend time with them and why I talk more to my friends than them and always stay in my roomJan 8, 2023
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He absolutely means something by it, maybe not something horribly sinister but it’s not innocent. Next time he does something to you, strongly and assertively tell him “NO. Do not touch me. I am uncomfortable.” Or something like that. If he doesn’t listen, tell anyone. Any adult. Tell your aunt, your parents, anyone and everyone. If he does something seriously bad, call the authorities. He is not innocent and needs to be stopped.
I wouldn’t say do anything to get yourself in serious trouble, and inciting violence isn’t something I’m a fan of, but if something happens, you should defend yourself by whatever means you can.
I am so sorry this is happening to you. It’s extremely difficult to deal with these things, especially when no one will listen to you. I’ve had an experience sorta similar to yours (but less severe), and I know how terrifying it can be. Stay strong. You’ll find safety and happiness in the future. It will get easier and better.
I wouldn’t say do anything to get yourself in serious trouble, and inciting violence isn’t something I’m a fan of, but if something happens, you should defend yourself by whatever means you can.
I am so sorry this is happening to you. It’s extremely difficult to deal with these things, especially when no one will listen to you. I’ve had an experience sorta similar to yours (but less severe), and I know how terrifying it can be. Stay strong. You’ll find safety and happiness in the future. It will get easier and better.
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•thats actually so disgusting i wish i could beat him up for you and take away all the trauma he caused you (and your sister) :((( That's actually so gross and not justifiable at ALL. If i could rescue you from that place i would because you should feel safe in your own home of all places!! id recommend trying to coordinate with your sister a way to bail each other out of those situations, although knowing how your sister can be idk if that would work but its worth a shot. ive done that before with coworkers and creepy people ("hey can you help me with this"/etc).... anyways hang in there <333 love you so much. and i say this every time but let me know if you EVER need anything!!
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to anyone seeing this Do not contact any kind of services about this post. I cannot be taken out of my home right now. I hate it, I hate my house and living with my family so much, but its better than being home on the streets or being forced to live with a foster family that might be much worse (in this area, they are. i have seen some people adopt teenage girls just so they can abus3 them. I don't need to go anywhere worse than where I am)
If I feel like it gets worse and there's nothing I can do, I will tell someone on my own. I hope you get it
If I feel like it gets worse and there's nothing I can do, I will tell someone on my own. I hope you get it
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•I'm utterly disgusted by this pervert in your life!!!! What the actual fuck is wrong with him???? You aren't overreacting. I've been harassed like this at your age too. I know exactly the kind of violated feeling you have right now. Don't stop speaking up insectoid. If you need to gather evidence of his behavior, DO IT. Perverts like that don't stop until they get what they want. I'm so incredibly sorry for what you're going through. You have my support!
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