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Little rant but I know I'm gonna have to break up with my boyfriend soon lol. It's kinda sad but I've felt it coming for a while now. The main reason is I mentioned to him the thought of me being trans and he totally shut it down because he didn't want to be sene as a gay man and that he'd never see me as a man (I bet you can guess he's religious). And like it's just kinda been kn through back burners of my mind because I told him.i was non-binary and he uses they them pronouns, but just around me, he calls me she around everyone else. I need help! Should I tall with him about it and see if he's changed his mind or should I end things?Apr 14, 2026
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Heyo! My partner is trans and I was with them prior to them realizing and transitioning! Its a really weird situation cause it feels like so much is changing but also... nothing is really changing? Cause you're just getting a more genuine version of your partner! However, some people have gender preferences they cannot change. Which is valid! However him saying he will never see you as a man is incredibly disrespectful and if he holds those views it is probably best for both of you to end the relationship as he isn't going to have what he wants and you won't have what you want. And while it sucks. You can definitely talk about it with him, which is preferable, put your foot down that this is who you are and if he can't accept it than the relationship won't work. You deserve to feel safe, accepted and loved in your relationship and sometimes not every partner is the person who can provide those things for you.
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•First of all, I’m so sorry you’re going though this, it sounds like a rough situation. In my opinion it doesn’t sound like he’s respecting your views or you as a person. It sounds like he’s got an idea in the type of relationship he’s looking for and you shouldn’t have to hide parts of yourself who won’t love or respect you as a whole. Maybe you could try talking to him about it again, but if he continues to ignore your wishes I’d say break up with him. There are so many people who will (and already do) want you around as yourself and not somebody you are masking as to appease someone else. Take care of yourself first and foremost! Always!!
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