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QuestionTaking into consideration that you're in a relationship with someone (doesn't matter if it's family, friendship or romantic ones) but you had a conflict with them, do you think that blocking, leaving and not keeping contact or keeping contact but being distant is better for you to heal?
P.S : Conflict can be like cutting ties with a someone u still have to work with or meet regularly, being friendzoned/ unrequited love etc.Jan 13, 2021
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It depends on u really. I would still give them chances but if they continue to hurt me, that's a clear sign for me to cut them out of my life, even if I have to make it permanent. I would be ignoring them or even not associating with them anymore, seeing them as just a person that I don't need in my life. Your mental health matters and if they're not giving that to you, end that relationship cuz u don't need that negativity/toxicity.
I hope this perspective helped in some way :> Take care
I hope this perspective helped in some way :> Take care
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Usually I would aproach in a civil manner, specially if I have to see them again, since I don't know why they reacted the way they did or what's happening through their head in that moment, so I tried to understand the way before making any drastic decision like cutting them of my life, so far when enough time has pass I can understand the way things scaleted and them can understand my reaction. Of course there are times when I tried to do this but the other person don't, then I let go or if what they did is truly horrible even when I understand why then I remove myself from the situation, try not to work directly with them and block them.
And when all the above fails you can always choose to have a screaming match or dirty looks in the hallway, all in good fun :>
And when all the above fails you can always choose to have a screaming match or dirty looks in the hallway, all in good fun :>
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My mentality is : f--k anyone who hurts my feelings and I'll see you all in hell.
Been keeping my mental health awesomely this far.
Been keeping my mental health awesomely this far.
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It really depends on how bad the conflict was. If it was over something that made you feel like you see them different and can't get along with em anynore than its time to cut ties. If you still care about that person regardless of what happened then syill interact with them, but take things slow and take your time healing. Only talk to em when you want to and don't force yourself to. If they ask why you're a bit distant just say that you're gonna need a but of time to heal, so they understand the situation from your side. Do not ghost, while it may be tempting because of stress, don't ever ghost a person you care about. It will make things go down hill fast.
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This is my personnal opinion, but the "time heal hearts" mentality is a lie. Time degrade, eventually it make us forget, but it doesn't repare.
Ghosting the person is not the thing to do
First it make them feel worse
Second, the issues will then never be addressed in healthy ways, like after everyone cooled down, if you ghost them the problem will still be there when coming back.
If you have a problem with someone, and you two fight in any way, go discuss with them when everyone has cooled down
And while discussing, make the effort to ask them how they felt, what maybe hurt them in you behavior, abd share what personnaly hurt you and try to find an arrangement
And that goes for any type of relationships with people you care about
In the case of friendzone/unrequited love, cutting ties for a while might however be better ? It depend if you are the one friendzoning or the one being friendzoned
Ghosting the person is not the thing to do
First it make them feel worse
Second, the issues will then never be addressed in healthy ways, like after everyone cooled down, if you ghost them the problem will still be there when coming back.
If you have a problem with someone, and you two fight in any way, go discuss with them when everyone has cooled down
And while discussing, make the effort to ask them how they felt, what maybe hurt them in you behavior, abd share what personnaly hurt you and try to find an arrangement
And that goes for any type of relationships with people you care about
In the case of friendzone/unrequited love, cutting ties for a while might however be better ? It depend if you are the one friendzoning or the one being friendzoned
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I would probably need time alone but come back and try to solve the problem, depending on how big the conflict was...if the problem hands a lot then I stop trying and leave
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I'd say depends on the relationship. For a romantic partner I don't think it's healthy unless you both agree like 'timeout for 24 hr' type terms. Just ghosting makes the other person feel much worse in my experience and it's not a good sign of conflict resolution. That being said, for family I think there's a healthy level of boundaries you can set up. Don't break communication completely, but having certain things be off limits if it makes conflict. I live with my partner, not my family, so giving myself some time to heal from conflicts from family is less of a dramatic gesture than 'im leaving you!'.
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I think you should clearly tell them. Like, first, tell them your problems, and before the other person can say anything, tell them that you don't want to hear them (which I really don't want you to do this, you should hear out what the other person has to say). If the person is in wrong, just tell them you will only work with them, nothing more, nothing less. If you think you're in the wrong, better settle this thing before it gets out of hand. But it is very important to tell them that you don't want to keep contact anymore. Cut it right there. Hope this helped.
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