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The “you can’t dress sexy and be asexual” is getting me. I wear crop tops, I wear short skirts, I wear transparent shirts or really tight clothes… The fact that I might find my OWN body beautiful and want to see MYSELF in pretty clothes has absolutely nothing to do with who I’m attracted to. You’re so fucking ridiculous, seriously.Jul 7, 2022
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Louder for the folks that pretend to be deaf 
like I LOVE TO DRAW FANCY/ SEXY it's sooo fun
Its as dumb as, 'you can't make sex jokes because your ace.' Like I have to live into a stereotype to match what they think an ace should look and act like. 
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Funny how people are saying that about aces,,, aces that literally don't want anything to do with sex. It's in the name. Asexual. Bruh.
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Parece que la gente piensa que la forma de vestir de una persona indica su sexualidad (lo cual es y suena totalmente ridículo, osea que esperan que haya un uniforme o algo asi ?),,, Tuve que responder una pregunta en una tarea sobre sexualidad que pedía que contemos las cosas que desde chicos ya daban pistas de nuestra sexualidad, y como ejemplo te decía de poner la manera en la que te vestias
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Mm sexuality has nothing to do with clothing choices, honestly! You're so valid. I wear baggy clothes and loose fitting shirts because I usually dislike showing off my figure, but that also shouldn't have to be an 'advertisement' to a person's sexual (or non) identity. If you like to wear clothes like you listed, that is great! I wish I had your level of self confidence 
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I really hate when people judge people off of clothing and body 
(especially bc the goth style is getting a lot of hate on the internet lately i really like that style) like bro its my body and i have low confidence on it anyway so shutt 
(especially bc the goth style is getting a lot of hate on the internet lately i really like that style) like bro its my body and i have low confidence on it anyway so shutt •
That's as bad as whenever people are like "oh well they were asking for it, look at how they were dressing" . Like, people don't necessarily dress a way to say "hey I'm here to f*ck" maybe they just wanna look and feel nice in what they're wearing and that's an outfit they like?
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frfr, as a fellow asexual i hate random people dictating what we are or aren't allowed to do / be to qualify as ace 
i can decide for myself thank u
i can decide for myself thank u•
I learned about this argument only this year and wow it's bad. Just because someone Thinks ace people look sexy doesn't mean they're not ace. It literally never works like that! If a guy finds a girl sexy and she's not into guys, his opinion doesn't invalidate HER OWN KNOWLEDGE OF HERSELF. Everyone understands how stupid that is. This is not any different
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Louder for the folks that pretend to be deaf like I LOVE TO DRAW FANCY/ SEXY it's sooo fun•
•Looking cool does not equal your sexuality, PERIOD. The people who actually think that are the people who say absolutely gross things like, “you were assaulted because of what you were wearing, your outfit was ‘asking for it.’”
Talk about MEGA CRINGE, right?
Talk about MEGA CRINGE, right?
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•I never understand this stuff cause like WHY people act as if others dress themselves elegant/pretty/sexy just to attract outsiders while WE LIKE TO DRESS OURSELVES FOR US ONLY MAJORITY IF NOT ALL OF THE TIME.
I'm demi, I'm under the ace umbrella, I don't like to dress cute pretty or sexy for attention from others AT ALL i actually diskike very much unwanted attention.
I do it also for just myself or my partner (dressing for my partner isn't my priority tho i usually do it for myself 1st). XD so like... YEAH we ain't here dressing sexy cause we want the "attention" we actually just want to enjoy our looks. Which isn't inherently related to sexual attraction but just aesthetic or fashion sense.
These people that say that are just mad cause they can't have us probably, i don't know sounds extremely possessive.
Also like I've been informing myself a TON on ace people to also find myself and write better my ace oc...
There's ace people that have sex but isn't a focus in their relationship and can vibe without it, there's ace people that like romance, there's ace people that don't like either, there's ace people of any kind! And if they want to dress sexy let them be it's just clothing items
I'm demi, I'm under the ace umbrella, I don't like to dress cute pretty or sexy for attention from others AT ALL i actually diskike very much unwanted attention.
I do it also for just myself or my partner (dressing for my partner isn't my priority tho i usually do it for myself 1st). XD so like... YEAH we ain't here dressing sexy cause we want the "attention" we actually just want to enjoy our looks. Which isn't inherently related to sexual attraction but just aesthetic or fashion sense.
These people that say that are just mad cause they can't have us probably, i don't know
sounds extremely possessive. Also like I've been informing myself a TON on ace people to also find myself and write better my ace oc...
There's ace people that have sex but isn't a focus in their relationship and can vibe without it, there's ace people that like romance, there's ace people that don't like either, there's ace people of any kind! And if they want to dress sexy let them be it's just clothing items
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this is stupidest I heard so far 
Ace people the sexiest and prettiest people out there
We dress for ourselves and ourselves only
We dress for ourselves and ourselves only
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•The only way we can exist for them is being ugly and dressing like it. How dare you make them fall for your trap when you’re not gonna be interested in them too? 
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I’ll wear whatever the fuck I want if it makes ME feel happy.
I know they’re mad because they find some asexual people hot and they know we won’t be interested in them in the same way. Check your ego, buddy. No, it’s not a waste of such a pretty body
I know they’re mad because they find some asexual people hot and they know we won’t be interested in them in the same way. Check your ego, buddy. No, it’s not a waste of such a pretty body
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